The last few weeks I have been suffering from mild anxiety.
Truth is – it is quite a strange emotion for me to feel these days. I can’t even recall the last time I felt ‘anxious’ (or perhaps I just haven’t been aware of it because I have been so busy).
I write this because I know so many of you can relate. That pit in your stomach feeling– the worst, right?!
Even worse, when you can’t quite pin point WHY you are feeling anxious. Having an actual reason – for some reason makes you feel 5% better about it.
I was for sure a very anxious child and teenager but thankfully grew out of it. I have been in therapy for many years now to obtain the tools I need to cope with anxious/stressful times.
For the last few years I have (so thankfully) felt very calm, focused and optimistic about life. I feel very in control of my thoughts and emotions.
If you know me, you know I take good care of myself. I practice yoga 2-3x/week. I eat very well. I take work breaks. I have strict social media boundaries. I listen to my body. I am kind to myself. Food has zero control over my thoughts these days. I am in a very healthy and happy relationship. I have 99% healed my relationship with food and my body. My energy is amazing. I am happy.
But… I also feel anxious.
I have only been feeling this for the last 2 weeks or so. Grateful.
So having been in therapy for so long, I know there is something here that I need to deal with. There is something underlying that is creeping up on me. I know that the universe is trying to reveal something to me – something I haven’t yet dealt with emotionally, a lesson to be learnt.
Something isn’t sitting right.
What is it? A question going over and over in my mind.
I have noticed that when I stop, when I am still – I am more anxious.
Working (doing, doing doing!) eases it. This isn’t exactly healthy because working is obviously a great distraction to my true. current state.
So I have found myself to be working 24/7 to ease it.
When I take a break to rest into the JS Stress Free Zone, I feel too anxious to be there. So I get back up and work. Not so healthy, right?
I have come to some sort of realisation that my work is probably causing the anxiety. JSHealth has grown exceptionality in the last couple of months and I think the pressure is taking a toll.
When a business grows, the pressure builds. It is just how it is I guess. You feel a responsibility to keep the standards high, to keep the community happy.
See, because the thing with me is that I actually CARE. I care so much about my community. I don’t focus on how many books I sell, or the numbers of the business. I have zero business interest. Seriously.
I actually CARE that my books/program/work/recipes HELP people to live a healthier, happier life. I genuinely wake up and think “how can I keep supporting and inspiring my community?”. For many people, it is easier not to care so much – not to be emotionally invested. But when you genuinely care so much about the people – you feel a huge amount of responsibility to keep the people happy, inspired and supported.
JSHealth was just a simple, personal blog just a few years ago while I was studying– where I was fortunate enough to find an audience who loved my healthy recipe creations and who could relate to my body/food struggles. It was a pure passion.
As you may know, my only intention was to finish my studies and be a damn good nutritionist (Ok fine, I did want to be maybe best nutritionist in Sydney haha).
JSHealth is now a business – very full on, very full time. The pressure is high. I didn’t expect to be a business owner and in charge a team of people. I am still learning how to manage it all.
I am also an A-Type personality aka: perfectionist. It is not just the external pressure – it is the SELF pressure. I know you get me.
Why do we feel we need to do it all perfectly? I am still figuring this one out.
Truth is though, I absolutely love it. This is my life’s calling. This is what I am meant to be doing. You guys (my community) make me so happy and fulfilled. It is because of you that I can do what I do – your support means everything to me.
I am also so fortunate to have found a team of people (The JSHealth team) who are just so brilliant at what they do – and who care so much about the JSHealth message and community.
Anyway – I am blabbing on now.
But I wanted to share some of the tools I have been using to ease this anxiety. Hopefully this short term temporary feeling.
If you are out there, waking up with that pang of anxiety – with that pit in your tummy – fluttering feeling in your heart, I hope these tips help:
- Know this feeling with pass. Life is hard. As my mum always says, “Life does not always feel so good”. Just accepting that – actually eases my anxiety. It will pass.
- Out of hard times, come good times. Life goes up and down. Let’s start accepting that sometimes we just feel down (and for no good reason sometimes) – This also eases my anxiety. But those good times are coming, soon. Don’t forget it.
- Meditate on your dreams. I have come up with a personal mantra that I meditate on every day for 5-10 minutes. Mine is “Health, abundance, happiness, energy, love”. I sit in a peaceful spot and I repeat this over and over. The mantra needs to be words that mean something to you, words that are the essence of what you want your life to be about – your purpose. Sit with a piece of paper now and find those words that mean something to you. Yours could be “health, love, peace”. Anything at all.
- Relieve the self-pressure – we do so much. We just have to be ok with the fact that we don’t need to do it all perfectly right all the time. Yes, we may disappoint people along the way. We need to strive to do our best. This is enough.
- Social media boundaries – I switch my phone/emails/everything off by 7-8pm each night.
- Alternate nostril breathing – life saver… Google it!
- Less alcohol and caffeine – a must.
- Epsom salt baths – every couple of nights. Heaven.
- A good night-time ritual – you can find mine here.
- Extra early nights and 8 hours of sleep where possible.
- A big cry – just feels so good.
- Less exercise – just yoga and light walks is what I have been doing mostly.
- Yoga – deepens my connection to myself (2x/week).
- Chamomile tea at night.
- Therapy – I just believe we all need it.
- Calming herbs prescribed by a Naturopath – these really help!
- Magnesium powder at night – under the guidance of a health practitioner.
- Put away that to do list – you will get the things done. You know you will.
- Dreaming – don’t forget those dreams of yours. Visualise them. Keep them close.
- Positive/grateful Affirmations, all day. “Thank you for my life, for my healthy, for my family, for my friends, for my work.” Thank you’s relieve anxiety.
- Support from family and friends – don’t be afraid to ask.
- Say no to social arrangements when you need to lay low and rest. Sometimes being at home with a book and your fav TV show is just so healing.
- Trusting the universe has your back – know it, feel it, believe it. The universe is on your side.
Lastly, I am here for you. I get you. I am supporting you. You are not alone. My 8-week Program is full of tips to deal with anxiety and heal an unhealthy relationship with food and your body. You can sign up today by clicking here!